Bermadu?

Assalamualaikum..

This post will contain both English and Malay languages, so sorry to language-lovers out there.. I'm just trying to send my point across..

One more, this is a rant, so I don't think there'll be any pictures.. I don't have time for that!

Okay, moving on..

As a girl/woman/chick, susah sebenarnya nak jawab bila orang tanya pasal bermadu ni.. Ye laa, perempuan mana yang rela berkongsi..? Baik macam mana sekalipun dia, hati tu mesti terusik jugak walaupun sikit sebab rasa yang diri ni tak cukup sempurna di mata sang suami sampai dia terpaksa cari yang lain.. Tak kisah lah sebab apa pun (zuriat, mertua, tangkap basah, fitnah), you still have to SHARE your husband with another woman..

But then, yang jadi masalahnya bila kita luahkan perasaan tentang bab bermadu ni, ada suara2 belakang yang lantang menyuarakan pendapat bahawa wanita2 yang tak suka bermadu ni menolak hukum agama..

Apa kau pernah rasa berkongsi? Pernah rasa yang kasih sayang dibahagi oleh sang suami?

Sebelum mengeluarkan kata hina dan nista, fikir perasaan orang, fikirkan situasi dia..

Sedih bermadu tak bermakna menafikan hukum agama, tapi membuktikan yang dia mempunyai perasaan dan rasa sayang pada rumah tangganya to give such responses towards the situation..

Cuba bandingkan dua situasi..

A) Isteri yang mengamuk/sedih bila suami declare rasa nak kahwin lain

B) Isteri yang buat "don't know", tak ambil peduli dan tak rasa apa-apa bila suami kata nak kahwin lain

Dalam dua-dua situasi tu, which one would you prefer?

To me, being sad or angry to someone shows that you care enough about him to give a sh*t and respond when he's doing something.

On the other hand, if your wife doesn't have any response or whatsoever when you claim to want to get married, it actually indicates that you're not worthy enough of tears to waste on.. She doesn't love you enough, it's that simple..

This post wasn't created to protest nor declare my hatred towards polygamy, but just to remind those specific group of people to at least show some support or even provide some advice to these women instead of throwing out accusations and bad mouthing them on how they "disagree with the religion" and "menolak hukum Tuhan" when they're sad being in that situation..

If you can't even support them, then mind your own d*mn business and let others help them, you selfish-arrogant-self-centered-people!

Okay, I should stop my ranting now and let you guys move on with your lives..

So long readers!

Assalamualaikum..

P/s : Memang ada golongan isteri yang redha dengan keputusan suami untuk bermadu but my argument in this post is to point out that before agreeing with her husband's decision, women WILL have a reaction, wether to cry or maybe flip-out. That's just the way women are. We're delicate, okay...